Characteristics of Adult Children: A Few More to Consider...
Beyond Janet Woititz's original list of thirteen, there are other
characteristics shared by those with codependent behaviour; here are
some of those.
Before reading further, you may want to ponder Characteristic
4 ("adult children judge themselves without mercy"), for
a few moments and remember that it's not how long a list you make of the
things in your life that could stand some improvement- it's what you do
with the items that are on the list. With that in mind, there are
certainly other characteristics (beyond the ones listed by Janet Woititz),
that come up in discussions of adult children. The ones listed below
are taken from the Step 4 section of
The 12 Steps
for Adult Children.
In that area of the program, we take a solemn and
fearless moral inventory, identifying and facing up to those
areas in out lives
requiring change. The different areas of Step 4 work suggested in the book
Fear of Abandonment
Fear of Authority Figures
Overdeveloped Sense of Responsibility
While, for any one of us, not all of these may necessarily result
from childhood issues, the program offers us a useful venue for idendifying
the extent to which they influence our behaviour as adults and a process
to understand them and hold them in check.